Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have. “Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. I’m crazy about her because she’s also understanding, intelligent, tender – so many things that my spouse is not.”
Somewhere along the way, you’ll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive.
More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 90 of what you’re looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 10%.
Let’s say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laughter. Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pyjamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh- smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels,
and a red pencil-cut skirt.
Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That’s only 10% of what you don’t have. Don’t throw away the 90% that you already have! Add to your spouse’s 90% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other.
The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you’ve accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking
God for what you already have.
But I’m not just talking about marriage.
I’m talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline
The main message:
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are is FIRST CLASS!
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*Points at the banner above*
something meaningful that i took off FLOWERPOD… well… i think this is very appropriate to share this passage today…. i thot to myself…. maybe i shld stop looking and settle for my 90% now?
It’s our 3 YEARS ANNIVERSARY! well.. won’t say it’s fast.. coz we came a long way… and time holds many uncertainties…. slowly and maybe painfully we’ve reached another year that we are going to spend together? or not together?
hmm…. not that i’m pessimistic BUT time holds many uncertainties you see… fortunately, i have alot of faith in BH…. BUT no faith in myself to keep this r/s going… my heart is wild.. and i have roving eyes… wahahahaha…. and very high demands from my bf or future hubby? yeah… so it’s not surprising that BH will ‘burst’ from my very critical remarks about him…or extra pressure about him being sucessful in the things he is doing or will be doing in future…
aren’t you guys lucky that you aren’t my bf? :wink1
i know BH been thru’ alot when he’s with me… of corrs… he’s emotionally weak when it comes to me… so i always hurt his heart with my sharp tongue which obviously pierced his heart into a billion pieces.. and yet he still stayed on… wahahaha…. my mum was telling me that he’s able to tolerate my nonsense now… BUT in future he may resort to violence if we are really gonna get married… :eek1 oh well….. i was abit scared tt that wld be the case…
Binghuan… thanks for everything that you have done and everything that you have not done…. i believe that you wld be able to get better with each passing year…. and hopefully i’ll still be by ur side when you are rich and sucessful..
:smile1
juz some pics to share…our 3 yrs journey through time together :heart1
from Left to right:
1) was taken on the bus in year 2003 near Vday i think… i didn’t have my digicam then… was still using BH’s…
2) oh yar… i rem! going Equinox for High tea…
3) 1 of the very first pic taken… BH juz entered NUS… after school… we decided to go Sentosa for the very first time … well… i still look young and innocent..
4) taken when we went to Bodyworlds’ exhibition
5) i forgot when
6) going to Fisherman’s Village for dinner? heez.. something tt we haven’t done for a long time
7) our 1st chinese new year together!
8) our 1st time being on plane together
9) In myanmar… for YEP!
10) In Bangkok for holiday… right after the myanmar trip! 🙂
11) Family chalet! when my sis finally learnt how to cycle and i still do not know how… :blush1
12) Most unforgettable and happy trip to TOKYO! it’s always on our minds… “miss the weather in tokyo” “the fireworks at 8.30 every night” “the delicious ramen” “so thirsty… if only we were in japan.. can get drinks so easily from the vending machines” wahahaha… wish to go there soon
yupz…. BH was telling me that he wished we cld go back to the times when we juz started dating.. coz everything is sweet and nice.. though i dun look too gd… but at least i’m not that ambitious or materialistic..and this is soooo true…
anyhow.. Happy 3 years Anniversary to us! :yum1
*btw.. i didn’t get BH anything… too bz…*